laticdickovarmy Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 Title says it all im in a state of shock, real premier league legend RIP Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lookers_Carl Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 RIP Gary Speed. Shocked isn't the word. Thoughts with his family and friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diego_Sideburns Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 He made his debut for Leeds against Latics, aged 19 at Elland Road on 6th May 1989, in a 0-0 draw. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wobblybob Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 tragic no other way to describe it im stunned as im sure football fans all over are bless him and his familly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shefflatic Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 nothing official as yet but thought to be suicide, terrible news. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rosa Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 Absolutely awful, tragic news. No-one seems to have any idea why he might have done it, everyone seems to be saying that, both professionally and personally, everything seemed to be going really well for him. I guess that, even when someone seems to have it all and has everything to live for, you don't know what problems they might be keeping quiet about and what's going on in their head. RIP. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lancy lad Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 Awful news. Great footballer and will be a loss to the game. RIP Gary! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lukers1 Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 nothing official as yet but thought to be suicide, terrible news. Police confirm he hung himself. He was only on football focus yesterday along with Gary Mcallister, who was singing his praises. RIP Gary, hopefully you can have peace of mind now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rosa Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 Dan Walker on BBC news24 now, sounding totally shell-shocked. Said he thought it was "some kind of sick joke" when he heard the news and that he seemed to be in the best mood he'd seen him in. Talking about how enthusiastic he was about Wales, how he was joking about how many people were following him on Twitter, how he was talking about how good his sons are at football and he was planning to come back on Football Focus. It just doesn't make any sense. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oafc joe Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 My best mates uncle was Gary Speed, he went to the same school as me, true football legend and a really nice bloke, R.I.P Gary, gone but never forgotten Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ackey Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 If there is anyone out there who feels the need to talk to someone please know you're not alone. People are always out there who want to support you in your fight. These may be of use: [1] http://www.mind.org.uk [2] http://www.nhs.uk/Li.../Helplines.aspx [3] http://www.depressionalliance.org [4] http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk [5] http://www.bbc.co.uk.../mental_health/ [6] http://www.sane.org.uk/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boboafc Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 (edited) rest in peace gary always be a true legend to the Welsh fans 1969-2011 Edited November 27, 2011 by boboafc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stargazer Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 His elegant skills were an integral part of the Leeds midfield which won the last ever football League in 1991. RIP Gary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevie_J Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 A touching minute's "silence" at Swansea this afternoon - Link. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boboafc Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 Shay Given ishowing his feelings about the sad death of gary speed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
astottie Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 (edited) If there is anyone out there who feels the need to talk to someone please know you're not alone. People are always out there who want to support you in your fight. These may be of use: [1] http://www.mind.org.uk [2] http://www.nhs.uk/Li.../Helplines.aspx [3] http://www.depressionalliance.org [4] http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk [5] http://www.bbc.co.uk.../mental_health/ [6] http://www.sane.org.uk/ Brilliant call Ackey. For anybody struggling, keep holding on and there are people who will help. To Gary Speed ,god bless him and his family.Hope the media (and the fans ) back off. Edited November 28, 2011 by astottie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevie_J Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 If there is anyone out there who feels the need to talk to someone please know you're not alone. People are always out there who want to support you in your fight. These may be of use: [1] http://www.mind.org.uk [2] http://www.nhs.uk/Li.../Helplines.aspx [3] http://www.depressionalliance.org [4] http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk [5] http://www.bbc.co.uk.../mental_health/ [6] http://www.sane.org.uk/ Just to add to that, to anyone who has fallen, or does so in future, into such a depression, talk to someone. Anyone. It's all too easy, when you're in that state of mind, to underestimate the value you have to others, who would do all they can to help, if only they knew. Sadly, people in their darkest moments manage to convince themselves otherwise. Depression tends to be so secretive and wears the most convincing of disguises, as Speed has shown by his Football Focus appearance yesterday. It's a really terrible shame. I'm gutted for his wife and kids. I can't imagine how they'll live with losing him in that way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diego_Sideburns Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 Brilliant call Ackey. For anybody struggling, hang in there and there are people who will help. To Gary Speed ,god bless him and his family.Hope the media (and the fans ) back off. A well-meant unfortunate turn of phrase. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
astottie Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 yes it was, sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fruitygoo Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 Having been through depression and fighting it for months on my own thinking it was my fault i was miserable, and i could work my way out of it...best thing i ever did was to seek help. People seem to be ashamed to say they need counselling, and there is still a stigma attatched to all mental illnesses but a few months of sessions changed my entire life. It sorted not only the problems i had at the time, but lots of things i didn't realise were there but could have caused problems in the future. Fortunatly, it never got to a point with me where I felt taking my life was the best option but I can understand how it could easily get to that point for some people. Thoughts with the family - RIP Gary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
th2003 Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 (edited) I suffer from depression and it can be a really debilitating condition. My advice to anybody is to tell people that you are suffering. Its really tough to do so...you create a mask in order to hide it. I don't know why, perhaps its the stigma, perhaps its the misconceptions about others thinking you are 'mental' and could turn at any second. The fact is that its a very personal illness until you take the step to admit it. From personal experience, actually admitting it is the hardest, yet the best thing that you can do...as the admission makes you feel so much better than than the depression makes you feel bad. There are also some things that you can do without medication. Exercise releases endorphins and seratonin, and any exercise helps. I try to run a couple of miles per day and even though I am a long way off the London 2012 Olympics I feel better when I exercise regularly. Sunlight is also a good thing, as I always feel better when there is a bright sunny day, winter or summer (not a good thing if you live in Oldham!!) On the down side, alcohol is a major no no. It is a depressant and actually ends up lowering your mood. Not only that, but you also have to cope with the problems of a hangover!! Also, if you are feeling down, then try and get out of the house. Its easy to say that daytime TV is depressing, but if you get out and interact with people then it does help to raise your mood. You may find places and interests that you never knew you had - Museums, Art Galleries, Rambling in the moors, window shopping? Finally, don't expect to "snap out of it" and don't allow people to tell you that you will "snap out". Many people did with me and I believed them, and when I didn't I was even more down. If you admit it, and make positive steps then you have made some progress. Some progress leads to more progress etc etc. Gary, like Robert Enke before him tragically seemed to have let their masks cover their illness. If you think you have a friend displaying any symptoms of depression please talk to them. Dont force them to admit their illness, as they will withdraw, but let them know you are there. And don't blame it on supporting Oldham...we could be Stockport County fans.... Edited November 28, 2011 by th2003 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevie_J Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 Having been through depression and fighting it for months on my own thinking it was my fault i was miserable, and i could work my way out of it...best thing i ever did was to seek help. People seem to be ashamed to say they need counselling, and there is still a stigma attatched to all mental illnesses but a few months of sessions changed my entire life. It sorted not only the problems i had at the time, but lots of things i didn't realise were there but could have caused problems in the future. Fortunatly, it never got to a point with me where I felt taking my life was the best option but I can understand how it could easily get to that point for some people. Thoughts with the family - RIP Gary Glad you're winning your battles, mate. Keep fighting it. You're absolutely right that there's a quiet stigma that remains around mental health problems. That needs to change. Hopefully, if nothing else, Speed's death will help to raise awareness of such issues and the associated dangers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevie_J Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 I suffer from depression and it can be a really debilitating condition. My advice to anybody is to tell people that you are suffering. Its really tough to do so...you create a mask in order to hide it. I don't know why, perhaps its the stigma, perhaps its the misconceptions about others thinking you are 'mental' and could turn at any second. The fact is that its a very personal illness until you take the step to admit it. From personal experience, actually admitting it is the hardest, yet the best thing that you can do...as the admission makes you feel so much better than than the depression makes you feel bad. There are also some things that you can do without medication. Exercise releases endorphins and seratonin, and any exercise helps. I try to run a couple of miles per day and even though I am a long way off the London 2012 Olympics I feel better when I exercise regularly. Sunlight is also a good thing, as I always feel better when there is a bright sunny day, winter or summer (not a good thing if you live in Oldham!!) On the down side, alcohol is a major no no. It is a depressant and actually ends up lowering your mood. Not only that, but you also have to cope with the problems of a hangover!! Also, if you are feeling down, then try and get out of the house. Its easy to say that daytime TV is depressing, but if you get out and interact with people then it does help to raise your mood. You may find places and interests that you never knew you had - Museums, Art Galleries, Rambling in the moors, window shopping? Finally, don't expect to "snap out of it" and don't allow people to tell you that you will "snap out". Many people did with me and I believed them, and when I didn't I was even more down. If you admit it, and make positive steps then you have made some progress. Some progress leads to more progress etc etc. Gary, like Robert Enke before him tragically seemed to have let their masks cover their illness. If you think you have a friend displaying any symptoms of depression please talk to them. Dont force them to admit their illness, as they will withdraw, but let them know you are there. And don't blame it on supporting Oldham...we could be Stockport County fans.... Good on you. Keep fighting back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oldhamains Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 A good tweet from Stan Collymore. http://www.twitlonger.com/show/ecoqm1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
opinions4u Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 (edited) I've been diagnosed with depression twice. I think I've probably had it on two earlier occasions as well, without realising and without seeing a doctor. I won't repeat some of the things covered in the excellent posts above. But they are worth reading. It's a horrible place to be though. Low self esteem, lack of drive, lack of self-belief. Feeling of failure (even if you're successful), obvious signs of nervousness that are exploited by others. It can manifest iteself in different ways too. I'm lucky I never got the suicidal thoughts. It's a condition I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. To anybody hitting one of these lows in life, there will be a point in the future where things really are much better. Work towards that point. And don't blame it on supporting Oldham...we could be Stockport County fans.... I've been to see County 4 times this season. They got around 4,500 on Saturday - boosted by the return of Gannon. But crowds in excess of those we see at BP seem to be quite common. I have to say that Hamman appears to have built a side of spineless, disinterested, sideways passers who haven't quite worked out what they're meant to do on a Saturday afternoon. Horrible to watch. Gannon needs to change some attitudes and personnel big time, or a third consecutive relegation is on the cards. Edited November 28, 2011 by opinions4u Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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